Mr Perfect...Or Not

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Experiencing feelings of unhappiness and discontent while living an apparently blissful life to the outside world, is what made Mr Perfect founder Terry Cornick  seek help and set up his mental health support group.

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Admitting his own conflicted feelings and facing up to his mental state just before the birth of his son a year and a half ago, was a huge achievement for Terry.

At age 30, from the outside he was, ‘living the dream’. “I came to the realisation when I was 30, that I had a great job, was earning loads of money, was married and about to have a kid – and I wasn’t happy.”

Terry says knowing he was becoming a father spurred him on to seek help, but when a visit to a GP gave him few options apart from medication and contacting Beyond Blue – he decided to take a different path.

“There was little effective, free, non-clinical support for men or even suggested lifestyle changes. Mr. Perfect was born,” he explains.

He spoke to friends and found his story was a familiar one. Terry began writing a blog and the response was so great that it led to setting up Mr Perfect as an online support channel and forum for men to confront issues and contribute to discussions.

This grew to holding monthly meetup BBQs with the emphasis more on forming connections than holding an extended counselling session.

He describes Mr Perfect as, ‘a grassroots, mental health support network and community with a vision to transform men’s mental health by making it a comfortable discussion for all’.

Terry, helped by a close group of friends, says Mr Perfect aims to facilitate conversation and connection through authentic personal stories, education and interaction in a safe, non judgemental way, particularly through Meetup BBQs across Sydney, with one that was held in Manly on September 17.

He says among his very close group of friends, they now talk openly about counselling and strategies for coping with the demands of life. “Recently one friend told me about doing a morning meditation and it’s something I might try now,” he adds.

Terry wants open discussions about the state of mental health among men to be as common as talking about a sporting injury. 

And while he says that some friends remain reticent about revealing too much, he can see them at least now considering a discussion and he wants to ensure the place for it to happen is ready and waiting.